“No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see possibilities – always see them, for they’re always there.”
~Norman Vincent Peale
My summer is just starting. My school is over. While I will miss everyone, the students and the parents, I am at the start of three months of possibilities. I have a few commitments but otherwise each day is open to many possibilities.
I want to finish my book, have a great flower and vegetable garden, make really delicious food that is also healthy, travel to new places, take some unbelievable hikes in the mountains, read books, go swimming, meet some new people….. the list goes on!
I feel like a kid! Kids see the potential of every summer. Kids imagine great crafts, making a Tom Sawyer raft, a hole that must be dug, sprinklers to run through and stars at night to be wished upon. Were your summers as a kids that way? When we’re young and just starting out the world is full of possibilities.
Or as well as feeling like a kids, I could feel each summer like Oprah, Steve Jobs, Martha Stewart, Thomas Edison, or even Leonardo Da’vinci must feel/felt when they wake/woke up. Don’t you imagine them waking up each morning, stretching and smiling and looking at the possibilities in their life?
If only we could feel this way every morning, excited and enthusiastic! The whole day is laid out before us, just like a summer break. Fourteen – sixteen hours, depending how much you sleep of course, before us to use the way we want.
Then your inner voice starts a conversation:
“But wait,” you say, “I have responsibilities.”
“And besides, I’m no Oprah, Da’vinci or Edison.”
“And I have children to take care of.”
“And my job is serious.”
“I have a ______ to pay.” (insert mortgage, phone bill, Visa card)
Ok. I understand. You have responsibilities! And you’re going to let those responsibilities limit your possibilities. The possibilities that you make for yourself come from your beliefs.
Examine your beliefs:
• Is the world for you a loving place or hostile?
• If you’re a parent, do you look for the good in your children or the bad?
• Do you spend time connecting with yourself or are you always doing things for others and living only with the constant chatter in your head?
• Do you wish things were better yet do nothing to change that? Or do you act on your thoughts?
• At your workplace are you open or are you controlling? Are you a leader? Maybe you see yourself as a victim? Are bad things are always happening to you…Or are you pleased with your world?
You belief system is a self-fulfilling prophesy. Your beliefs are that inner voice your are hearing. If you can eliminate certain beliefs your reality will change
After eliminating certain negative beliefs, your other inner voice, the positive one, can say, “Wait, can’t our responsibilities be part of our possibilities?”
Well, why not? As George Bernard Shaw wrote: “You see things; and you say, ‘Why?’ But I dream things that never were; and I say, ‘Why not?’”
Your job as a parent, your career and even how you pay bills can be what you make it! So in this post I’m giving your homework. Time to stop seeing the world as a limiting place. Instead see the world this week as a week of possibilities.
1. Be open.
2. Make mistakes.
3. Think outside the box.
4. Be open to coincidence or serendipity.
5. Stop complaining.
6. Do something a lot different from the norm. Drive home a different way. Stop a new shop that’s just opened.
7. Do something outside your comfort zone.
8. Remove negative behavior.
9. Volunteer in your “dream industry” (tinybuddha)
10. See the humor in life.
11. Change your attitude!
12. Sing this song from Oklahoma all week:
“Oh what a beautiful morning,
Oh what a beautiful day,
I’ve got a wonderful feeling,
Everything’s going my way.”
You all know the quote “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.” Well, make some lemonade with your responsibilities and turn them in possibilities.
For example, if you’re watching your children all summer, create a fun summer filled with trips to little creeks, playgrounds, hikes around a fun farmer’s market or a scavenger hunt around your neighborhood. (It doesn’t have to be expensive) If you’re in a serious job, start bringing humor to work. People may be grumpy at first but they’ll start to look forward to your jokes and one day bring a joke of their own! If you are overwhelmed by the bills you have, look at them in a different way. Thank them (yes I’m talking about the bills) for the opportunity they give you to have a house, car, phone or to do the many things you get to do. Thank your taxes for giving you an incredible place to live.
Creating a possibility is “like removing a roadblock” in the street that is your life!
So join me and be excited for all the possibilities this summer. As part of your homework assignment, write below what possibilities you have for the summer. I can’t wait to hear what you’re going to be doing!
Please come and listen to my radio interview with Victor Scheuller at his positivity website. Click here.
Also, if you live in the area, I will be signing books at the Hearthfire Bookstore in Evergreen on June 7th at their Wine@5:00 event.