I was watching CBS Sunday Morning when I saw a segment on a mailman who works on the campus of Penn State. Mike the Mailman is not just delivering mail; he’s delivering happiness, too.
From CBS’s Sunday Morning: “My mission is to make them have a little bit of levity on the way out and say, ‘Hey, it’s not so bad after all,’” says Mike Herr. To that end, Mike lives by a simple motto: if you can’t say something nice about someone, you’re just not looking hard enough. Even if it’s only how nicely they filled out their forms. And he’s been like this with just about every customer, every day, for 38 years. “This is what I do,” he says. “I’m just myself, that’s all I can do.” The man really is pure heart, which is part of the reason the lines are so long here. Nicole Logan, a regular, says she comes in to buy stamps when she doesn’t need stamps. “Because he just makes your day so much better,” she explains. (See more here)
Now how nice is that?! A man who has spent his life making other people happy with humor and compliments. Mike also finds incredible benefits on his end. It makes him feel good and students give him gifts. And it doesn’t seem that hard.
You can be a person like Mike. These are simple ideas but ones we often forget! And the simple things are often the most powerful. Here are some of the things I noticed that Mike did:
1. Start with a smile – It may be the only smile they get that day.
2. Use kind words – words that encourage like You’re doing a great job! You rock! You’re amazing! You are making my day! “Be compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and strong,” as George Washington Carver writes, “because someday you’ll be all of the these.
3. Show genuine interest – Don’t just say “How was your day today?” Remember something from your last conversation. “How did your test go?”
4. Give Sincere Compliments – You look great today. What a wonderful scarf! I like that shirt. Did you get a new haircut? Looks great! A compliment is great way to start out a conversation.
5. Another thing you can do for Valentine’s Day is to express your feelings through words on a card – Maybe you can’t exactly think of the words yourself. A quote can sometimes say it all! Here are a few of my favorite love quotes.
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”
“Love has no desire but to fulfill itself. To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night. To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving.”
~ Kahlil Gibran
“And now here is my secret, a very simple secret; it is only with the heart that one can see rightly, what is essential is invisible to the eye.”
~ Antoine de Saint-Exupery
“Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.”
“For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.”
~ Judy Garland
“Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life.”
~ Richard Bach
6. Say Thank You! There is no gift like real gratitude. We always say thank you automatically. Try true gratitude to those you love.
I have to end with one of my favorite short films, Validation. It’s 16 minutes and so worth watching!
Here is your homework. On Valentine’s Day (and everyday really) use your words to compliment, to show you listen, to encourage and to validate. Be a positive part of someone’s day. You may be the best part!
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