“Do you think you’re lucky because you really are lucky? Or… are you lucky because thinking makes it so?”
~a conversation between the Zen Mama and the Zen Papa.
It’s almost St. Patrick’s Day! And I’d like to write about one of my favorite theories of positive thought that I call Lucky Thinking.
This is a type of thinking we try to do at the Henry house. Lucky thinking is another way of changing negative thoughts into positive ones.
You’ve heard people do it.
“We’re so lucky to have our health.”
“We’re so lucky to have a roof over our heads and food in our mouths.”
“We’re so lucky to live in Colorado.” (Maybe not all of you are lucky enough to say this! )
It’s Lucky Thinking!
Luck is defined as: a force that brings good fortune or the events
or circumstances that operate for an individual.
Is that all? Is there more to being lucky than just chance?
Lucky thinking is changing the negative habits of anxiety and lack of confidence to the ability to be positive, see the positive and take advantage of opportunities that are constantly presenting themselves.
I found several Luck studies on the internet. These studies support the fact that we make our own luck.
In one study the volunteers were asked to do several simple experiments.
• First, the volunteers were asked to putt a golf ball into a hole on a putting green. 1/2 the volunteers were given “the lucky ball”. Then they putted. Yes, you guessed. The lucky ball players did much better than the other volunteers.
• The second experiment the volunteers tried putting little balls in a hole by tilting the board up. The people watching said to 1/2 the people something to the equivalent of “I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you.” Yes, you guessed. These players did much better than the other volunteers.
• Half of the next volunteers got to take a “lucky charm” into the room with them as they were asked a series of questions. The rest got their lucky charm taken away. Yes, you guessed. These Lucky charm players did much better than the other volunteers.
Another luck experiment involved a psychologist who put an ad in a newspaper. He stated he was looking for lucky and unlucky people to read through a newspaper and then tell him what they had read. This caused great anxiety among the “unlucky” people. Professor Weisman had secretly placed a large message halfway through the newspaper saying: “Tell the experimenter you have seen this and win £250.” This message took up half of the page and was written in type that was more than two inches high. The people who felt they were “lucky” tended to see the ad in the paper more times. From this experiment and a few others, he discovered that lucky people:
• Listen to their gut instincts – they are normally right.
• Are open to new experiences and breaking your normal routine.
• Spend a few moments each day remembering things that went well.
• Visualize themselves being lucky before an important meeting or telephone call. Luck is very often a self-fulfilling prophecy.
What about when you’re not feeling so lucky?
Every time you feel unlucky and are starting to complain about it, try this: Say, “I am so lucky.” Or if you’re with your children, “We are so lucky.” If your children hear that often enough they believe. I know because I have three lucky kids!!
• You are stuck in traffic: “We are so lucky we have a good car with music in it during this traffic.”
• “We are so lucky we’re late. Maybe we’re missing an accident that we might have been in if we were on time.”
• When it’s raining: “Aren’t we lucky it’s raining so that our garden will get all the water it needs.”
• When looking at the moon: “Aren’t we lucky to have to a moon? Not every planet has one.”
Lucky thinking appreciates sunsets and sunrises. Lucky thinking knows that the little things like family are what really matters. Lucky thinking is open to change. It’s receptive to new ideas and tries to see the best in life.
When you start to think this way, you also begin to attract the good things that you feel lucky about into your life. It’s interesting that feeling that you’re lucky works. It improves your confidence. It helps you to find opportunity and maybe helps you to work just a little harder! Although it can’t be proved either way, I believe we can make our own luck, because thinking make it so.
So your homework is to try this for a couple of days or even a week and see what happens. When you combine Lucky Thinking with Viewfinder Thinking, you’ll be amazed at the results!
**I just have to add what a friend of my husband’s has to say about the Zen Papa’s luck:
“John, you’re so lucky that if you were pushed off a cliff you’d land on a hundred dollar bill.”
(This post was originally published March 17, 2012)
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For further reading:
The Loser’s Guide To Getting Lucky