Oh The Possibilities…

 Norman Vincent Peale, my favorite positive thinker!

Norman Vincent Peale, my favorite positive thinker!

My summer is just starting. I am at the start of two months of possibilities. I have a few commitments but otherwise each day is open to many possibilities.

I want to finish my book, have a great flower and vegetable garden, make really delicious food that is also healthy, travel to new places, take some unbelievable hikes in the mountains, read books, go swimming, create some new photography, meet some new people….. the list goes on!

I feel like a kid! Kids see the potential of every summer. Kids imagine great crafts, making a Tom Sawyer raft, a hole that must be dug, sprinklers to run through and stars at night to be wished upon. Were your summers as a kids that way? When we’re young and just starting out, the world is full of possibilities.

If only we could feel this way every morning, excited and enthusiastic! The whole day is laid out before us, just like a summer break. Fourteen – sixteen hours, depending how much you sleep of course, before us to use the way we want.

Then your inner voice starts a conversation:
“But wait,” you say, “I have responsibilities.”

“And I have children to take care of.”

“And my job is serious.”

“I have a ______ to pay.” (insert mortgage, phone bill, Visa card)

Ok. I understand. You have responsibilities! But don’t those responsibilities limit your possibilities. The possibilities that you make for yourself come from your beliefs.

You belief system is a self-fulfilling prophesy. Your beliefs are that inner voice your are hearing. If you can eliminate certain beliefs your reality will change

After eliminating certain negative beliefs, your other inner voice, the positive one, can say, “Wait, can’t our responsibilities be part of our possibilities?”

Well, why not? As George Bernard Shaw wrote: “You see things; and you say, ‘Why?’ But I dream things that never were; and I say, ‘Why not?’”

So first, take time to examine your beliefs by answering these questions:

• Is the world for you a loving place or hostile?
• If you’re a parent, do you look for the good in your children or the bad?
• Do you spend time with yourself or are you always doing things for others and living only with the constant chatter in your head?
• Do you wish things were better yet do nothing to change that? Or do you act on your thoughts?
• At your workplace are you open or are you controlling? Are you a leader? Maybe you see yourself as a victim? Are bad things are always happening to you…Or are you with your world?
• Do you laugh much?
• Do you have time in your life to simply be?

Your job as a parent, your career and even how you pay bills can be what you make it! So in this post I’m giving your homework. Time to stop seeing the world as a limiting place. Instead see the world this week as a week of possibilities.

1. Be open.
2. Make mistakes.
3. Think outside the box.
4. Be open to coincidence or serendipity.
5. Stop complaining.
6. Do something a lot different from the norm. Drive home a different way. Stop at a new shop that’s just opened. Brush your teeth with a different hand.
7. Do something outside your comfort zone.
8. Remove negative behavior.
9. Volunteer in your dream job.
10. See the humor in life.
11. Change your attitude!
12. Sing this song from Oklahoma all week (or something equally as positive):
“Oh what a beautiful morning,
Oh what a beautiful day,
I’ve got a wonderful feeling,
Everything’s going my way.”

13. Lastly, it’s up to you to make your day fun and full of possibilities.
• For example, if you’re with your children all summer, create a fun summer filled with trips to little creeks, playgrounds, hikes around a fun farmer’s market or a scavenger hunt around your neighborhood. (It doesn’t have to be expensive)
• If you’re in a serious job, start bringing humor to work. People may be grumpy at first but they’ll start to look forward to your jokes and one day bring a joke of their own!
• If you are overwhelmed by the bills you have, look at them in a different way. Thank them what overwhelms you, like paying bills, for the opportunity it give you to have a house, car, phone or to do the many things you get to do. Thank your taxes for giving you an incredible place to live. Thank your sore throat for helping you to slow down. Take an opportunity to change some negative into a positive.

Creating a possibility is like removing a roadblock in the street that is your life!

So join me and be excited for all the possibilities this summer. As part of your homework assignment, write below what possibilities you have for the summer. You all know the quote “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.” Well, make some lemonade with your responsibilities and turn them in possibilities. I can’t wait to hear what you’re going to be doing!

My favorite positive thinker, Norman Vincent Peale

My favorite positive thinker, Norman Vincent Peale

If you live near Denver (or even if you don’t!), I’d like to invite you to a workshop I’m giving with Tricia Gast of Body Talk. We’ll be teaching about releasing negative emotions like stress, worry, angry from the body, becoming a Peaceful Parent, finding your passion and becoming a positive thinker. We’ll be laughing a lot, practicing Yoga and giving you some practical tips on integrating all of this into your life right away. The workshop will take place June 28th from 8:00 to 12:00 in Littleton, Colorado with lots of heathy snacks included! The cost… you decide… that’s right! It’s based on the Buddhist principle called “Dana”: giving what you feel the program is worth. If you’re interested please email me at thezenmama (at) gmail.com and I’ll send you more information.

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13 Responses to Oh The Possibilities…

  1. Hi Betsy,

    Just stumbled upon your blog through twitter and loved reading it, I could feel the positivity reaching deep into my heart. Yes! the possibilities are infinite only if we let our mind be free, if we let that child within us join the flight and let the excitement unfold.

    Thanks for sharing lovely thoughts, full of fun and enjoyment…liked your energy and enthusiasm that flows through your words.

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    Betsy Reply:

    Balroop,
    Your comment makes me very happy! And I agree that letting that child within out can make such a difference in your day!
    So glad to have you as part of our positive community! Thanks for your comment and hope to see you here often!! :)

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  2. Ted says:

    I would love to attend your workshop (probably the only male there), but unfortunately
    I’m working that Saturday.
    I have a feeling it would do me a world of good. Have to continually work on staying
    positive about my life, even with such a caring and loving family around me.
    Dad

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    Betsy Reply:

    Dad,
    I would love to have you at the workshop. Maybe the next one!
    In the meantime we’ll continue to talk about positivity over dinner!!
    xoxo
    Betsy

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  3. I always see possibilities. It energizes me. People can believe how much I can accomplish, but when they spend time with me, I am calm and cool. I keep creating and looking for possibilities!

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    Betsy Reply:

    Jodi,
    I always love your comments! I’d love too meet and feel that energy, too!
    Thanks for being here!

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  4. Betsy darling,
    The Possibilities are endless should we choose to keep our heart and mind open to them.
    My summer vacation here just got over..but I loved how much fun I had when I dived into it with an open mind. Achieved a whole lot! And I have supremely quirky and fun pictures to prove it ;)
    Much Love,
    Z~

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    Betsy Reply:

    Zeenat,
    How lovely to see your name here! So glad you enjoyed your summer break. I’m sure I’ll read about it over at your blog!! Thanks for taking the time to comment here!!
    xoxo

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  5. I have always loved Norman Vincent Peale and his word “possibilitarian” is one of his best ideas! Staying open to possibilities and miracles is a wonderful way to live and always leads to good things happening. Your post is filled up uplifting things and reminds me of that quote from Alice in Wonderland when the Queen says, “Why, sometimes I’ve believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast.”

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    Betsy Reply:

    Kathy,
    I’ve always loved Norman Vincent Peale, too. He is one of the original positive thinkers! I, too, love that quote from Alice. I think I even loved it as a kid! Thanks for sharing.
    xoxo

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  6. Fran Sorin says:

    Betsy-
    First- HAPPY VACATION! Second, your energy force is filled with such positivity that I always finish reading your posts feel renewed.

    How right on target you are about our lives being self fulfilling prophecies. I think from the time children are in primary school, they should be taught ‘how to dream’ and develop the skills needed to help them believe in themselves (not just using a slogan).

    If I lived in your vicinity, I’d be signing up for your workshop. I know it will be super. xxoo

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    Betsy Reply:

    Fran,
    What I wouldn’t give to have you at my workshop. But you’d have to help teach it!! I love the idea of teaching kids “How to dream”. They don’t get enough time to imagine with their intense schedules!!
    Thanks, as always, for your insightful comments!

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  7. I love this : D. Summer is now almost over but there is still many possibilities. Life is full of possiblities. I love the question of whether life is a hostile or loving place? The answer to this question will tell you a alot about a person’s mindset.

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