My summer is just starting. I am at the start of two months of possibilities. I have a few commitments but otherwise each day is open to many possibilities.
I want to finish my book, have a great flower and vegetable garden, make really delicious food that is also healthy, travel to new places, take some unbelievable hikes in the mountains, read books, go swimming, create some new photography, meet some new people….. the list goes on!
I feel like a kid! Kids see the potential of every summer. Kids imagine great crafts, making a Tom Sawyer raft, a hole that must be dug, sprinklers to run through and stars at night to be wished upon. Were your summers as a kids that way? When we’re young and just starting out, the world is full of possibilities.
If only we could feel this way every morning, excited and enthusiastic! The whole day is laid out before us, just like a summer break. Fourteen – sixteen hours, depending how much you sleep of course, before us to use the way we want.
Then your inner voice starts a conversation:
“But wait,” you say, “I have responsibilities.”
“And I have children to take care of.”
“And my job is serious.”
“I have a ______ to pay.” (insert mortgage, phone bill, Visa card)
Ok. I understand. You have responsibilities! But don’t those responsibilities limit your possibilities. The possibilities that you make for yourself come from your beliefs.
You belief system is a self-fulfilling prophesy. Your beliefs are that inner voice your are hearing. If you can eliminate certain beliefs your reality will change
After eliminating certain negative beliefs, your other inner voice, the positive one, can say, “Wait, can’t our responsibilities be part of our possibilities?”
Well, why not? As George Bernard Shaw wrote: “You see things; and you say, ‘Why?’ But I dream things that never were; and I say, ‘Why not?’”
So first, take time to examine your beliefs by answering these questions:
• Is the world for you a loving place or hostile?
• If you’re a parent, do you look for the good in your children or the bad?
• Do you spend time with yourself or are you always doing things for others and living only with the constant chatter in your head?
• Do you wish things were better yet do nothing to change that? Or do you act on your thoughts?
• At your workplace are you open or are you controlling? Are you a leader? Maybe you see yourself as a victim? Are bad things are always happening to you…Or are you with your world?
• Do you laugh much?
• Do you have time in your life to simply be?
Your job as a parent, your career and even how you pay bills can be what you make it! So in this post I’m giving your homework. Time to stop seeing the world as a limiting place. Instead see the world this week as a week of possibilities.
1. Be open.
2. Make mistakes.
3. Think outside the box.
4. Be open to coincidence or serendipity.
5. Stop complaining.
6. Do something a lot different from the norm. Drive home a different way. Stop at a new shop that’s just opened. Brush your teeth with a different hand.
7. Do something outside your comfort zone.
8. Remove negative behavior.
9. Volunteer in your dream job.
10. See the humor in life.
11. Change your attitude!
12. Sing this song from Oklahoma all week (or something equally as positive):
“Oh what a beautiful morning,
Oh what a beautiful day,
I’ve got a wonderful feeling,
Everything’s going my way.”
13. Lastly, it’s up to you to make your day fun and full of possibilities.
• For example, if you’re with your children all summer, create a fun summer filled with trips to little creeks, playgrounds, hikes around a fun farmer’s market or a scavenger hunt around your neighborhood. (It doesn’t have to be expensive)
• If you’re in a serious job, start bringing humor to work. People may be grumpy at first but they’ll start to look forward to your jokes and one day bring a joke of their own!
• If you are overwhelmed by the bills you have, look at them in a different way. Thank them what overwhelms you, like paying bills, for the opportunity it give you to have a house, car, phone or to do the many things you get to do. Thank your taxes for giving you an incredible place to live. Thank your sore throat for helping you to slow down. Take an opportunity to change some negative into a positive.
Creating a possibility is like removing a roadblock in the street that is your life!
So join me and be excited for all the possibilities this summer. As part of your homework assignment, write below what possibilities you have for the summer. You all know the quote “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.” Well, make some lemonade with your responsibilities and turn them in possibilities. I can’t wait to hear what you’re going to be doing!
If you live near Denver (or even if you don’t!), I’d like to invite you to a workshop I’m giving with Tricia Gast of Body Talk. We’ll be teaching about releasing negative emotions like stress, worry, angry from the body, becoming a Peaceful Parent, finding your passion and becoming a positive thinker. We’ll be laughing a lot, practicing Yoga and giving you some practical tips on integrating all of this into your life right away. The workshop will take place June 28th from 8:00 to 12:00 in Littleton, Colorado with lots of heathy snacks included! The cost… you decide… that’s right! It’s based on the Buddhist principle called “Dana”: giving what you feel the program is worth. If you’re interested please email me at thezenmama (at) gmail.com and I’ll send you more information.
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