Hi! I’m Betsy Henry. I’m a mom, wife, aunt, daughter and a teacher. I grew up in the Chicago area with two amazing parents and three wonderful siblings. I was always writing as a child and was told all the time I should be a writer. I knew that the writing would come when it was time.
I was born a positive thinker. However, I found myself getting more negative as my three boys got older. Then the teenage years hit. I was totally unprepared for this! The teenage years are not easy, as anyone with even one teenage child will tell you. I found myself getting angrier, more worried and disappointed with myself for not being a better mother. We had just finished a challenging year with our children; grades had fallen and limits were being tested. I was a frantic, nagging mother worried about my kids in this modern world with text messaging, Facebook and our demanding culture that wants them to be volunteers, super athletes and ivy league students. Yet, at my job as a preschool teacher, I felt more Zen-like, giving out pearls of wisdom to those overly concerned parents of my 3-5 old year old students.
I decided at that point that I had my own life to live and I needed to let my children live their lives. I decided to go back to being a positive and optimistic person. I searched for the lessons in all of our experiences in order understand where we had made mistakes. I couldn’t continue to be the person I’d become. If I let go, maybe we’d all be happier. So, I decided to combine the two; the frantic mother and the Zen-like teacher and become one, a “Zen Mama”. During this time, I was up in the middle of the night constantly worrying. This is when I started writing myself advice from my inner self whom I jokingly called the “Zen Mama”. This became my first book, How To Be A Zen Mama. I self published in 2009 and my whole life changed!
Since then I written two more books, The Zen Mama’s Book of Quotes and Zen Tips with one more on the way. I love our positive community – all of us searching for meaning and to make their life more positive.
Hopefully this website and the books will be a teacher for you. None of us brings a child into this world with a degree in parenting. I have at times been thankful of my teaching degree, having studied and practiced teaching before having children. But I’ve also been at a loss more times than I can think! I’ve worried so much. I’ve been angry. I’ve been disappointed. Emotions like worry, anger and disappointment are habits, and like other bad habits, these can be broken.
Oh, and by the way, you can apply these lessons to other parts of your life: Zen Wife, Zen Daughter, Zen Sister Zen Friend, Zen Co-worker…you get the picture!